An LBS seems like a perfect match for another LBS.
But vulnerable and wounded people seldom are.
It has occurred...usually with problems and painful consequences.
The LBS's has introduced a another person into an already fragile and damaged relationship, or situation. And adds to the hurt, and this time, with eyes wide open. This time, it truly is the fault of the LBS and people will get hurt.
Of every story posted here, there are 3 sides to it. The posters version of events, the one we read, the poster we feel empathy for perhaps wish our spouse were more like that poster. But there is also the unread spouses version.
Somewhere close by or far from, is the truth.
Speaking as an example of experience, you'll hurt someone, maybe the person you think deserves it, or maybe the person you don't think deserves it; and get hurt in the process, becoming something you despised...an OM/W. Even though you tell yourself it's different.
The idea is not to make a very difficult situation...more difficult.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
