I want to find out from the vets on here if I have any hope here. I have had an interesting last month. My C told me that I could not control my W's actions...I knew it all along but suddenly I get it....I also bought 5LL and read it three times. OMG I can't believe what I have not done in my relationship over the years. Since reading the book I have not had any negative interactions with W, in fact just the opposite. We have had lunch almost every day that she works...And since she moved an hour away she calls me and I talk with her the whole ride to work and the whole ride home....This is a new development. I also have had her talk about the age difference in her and the OM, he is 15 years her junior. She even called me one night and asked if I would meet her for dinner. That has never happened. She also is a classic WAW....she told me last year that she did not love me and that we never should have been married. She also told me that I could never change, that its impossible for people to change and keep them going...Fast forward 10 months later and she asked me the other day...what would it be like if we got back together....She also told me that she loves me and knows the emotional connection can come back and she could fall in love with me again. She also said that she has noticed changes in me but that she does not trust me to keep them going. These are great developments....I also have been reconnecting with my five girls and my wife loves that as well. So in talking with my C today she advised me that since she last saw me, I am glowing with confidence with in myself. She does however caution me about being patient....I am being patient...my W has seen my changes and apparently likes them. I however think that she is afraid that if she dumps OM and I screw up he is already gone.....So what advice or 2x4's can you all give me. I will be patient as I can be and I think that she will come around...I have been GAL and making changes with in me....I do feel however that I will be alright with whatever happens.... So give it to me.....
