boy let me tell you...it is FREAKING hard to sit there and know that they are finally aware and yet they STILL can't get rid of the OW. He doesn't spend any time with her that is for sure (he is always home!), but the emotional attachment via text is still strong. This is almost harder to deal with.
TAMF, I deal better with guys...so I don't often interact with the ladies who already have a strong support group. Plus I'm so damnn attractive on the boards I don't want to blur any lines... ; )
What is your plan, what's your goal and what's your boundary?
He is home, but he is texting the OM?
To me, for me...the goal isn't to get them back no matter the cost.
For me? I'd ask to see the phone when a texting went down...that I knew 100% was with the OM, smash it and tell her to get out until she was f-ing serious about commiting to rebuilding us as a couple, instead of screwing with my emotions.
But that is a pretty hard ultimatium. It seems like he responded to the threat of the Divorce.
In DR, Michele does says on page 230-231. When nothing is changing and your at the end of your rope one of the last things you can try is an ultimatium. However you must be prepared to follow through with it.
Micheles example of an ultimatium is very much nicer and the real way to make one.
For any of you new people, reading this, this advice, about the ulitmatium? It's for TAMF, not you, it is specific advice to her situation, not general advice for everyone.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
