With all of us, learning how to be better people because of what we are going through, wouldn't it be funny if some people actually met (started an R) from this board if things didn't work out with their S? Think about it, you know you are getting someone that is will work their @ss off to make sure an M works!
Again, this was just a funny thought. Not serious in any way.
Apparently it has happend in the past and that's why things have tightened up on the boards.
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M: 48, H: 42 Kids: 0 T: 20 yrs M: 16 yrs. (H's 1st, my 2nd) WAS/MLC: 12/7/09-I'm not the wife HE deserved Came home per L: 12/26/09, Left again: 2/6/10 Served: 10/21/10, D FINAL: 6/15/11
Well the good thing is we can still type " tight " on the boards. Intoxicated posting...mmmmmm, no.
BITS Me-51, WAS-52 Kids 2 M-26yrs, H.left 2009, 2 more Bomb drops, Reconnection spring 2013 Change is inevitable, personal growth is a choice. Love is a action and choice you make, every day.
Tight doesnt always mean drunk Scylla. I dont think our American friends would get that reference. I didnt get it for such a long time as it was said alot in this small northern town.
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BITS M-46 W-42 M-16y T-19 y s10 s15 BombDec.19/09 Sep-F16/10 Sep Papers signed by W- June 30/10 Recon July 5/10 PA foundOut- Oct 30/10 Mental HospNov/10 moved out Nov/10 Leg Sep Mar 15/11
An LBS seems like a perfect match for another LBS.
But vulnerable and wounded people seldom are.
It has occurred...usually with problems and painful consequences.
The LBS's has introduced a another person into an already fragile and damaged relationship, or situation. And adds to the hurt, and this time, with eyes wide open. This time, it truly is the fault of the LBS and people will get hurt.
Of every story posted here, there are 3 sides to it. The posters version of events, the one we read, the poster we feel empathy for perhaps wish our spouse were more like that poster. But there is also the unread spouses version.
Somewhere close by or far from, is the truth.
Speaking as an example of experience, you'll hurt someone, maybe the person you think deserves it, or maybe the person you don't think deserves it; and get hurt in the process, becoming something you despised...an OM/W. Even though you tell yourself it's different.
The idea is not to make a very difficult situation...more difficult.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
JTB, Yes indeed three sides at least. When we used to listen to someone else’s R issues, W and I used to caution each other there is his side, her side, and somewhere in between lays the truth.
Thread drift warning Tight, Eh?? Sorry couldn’t resist. Need a little humor even gallows would work for me right now with the weekend coming up.
Got the reference, heard it before. It is one my father used to use. I am trying to keep from getting a little tight. For me it is a short term solution that doesn’t help long term. Don’t have a problem there yet, don’t want to get one, not attractive.
BITS Me 55, ACK, when did that happen? Doesn't feel like 55 D 30 S 27
You create your own universe as you go along - Winston Churchill
