It's Time To Rock; Part II

[gr8 day 2B alive]

Telling me how tight it is financially for her to be splitting the mortgage and paying rent for her apartment.

All standard script, my W said the same thing to me in mediation.
I responded : That's the consequences of you decisions.

I told her the ball is in her court, saying I would still prefer to work on our M.

Why do all LBSs think the ball is in the the WAW court?
Not true, just like you only brought 50% of the problems to the M the WAW is only 50% of this situation too.
YOU can decide too, what's best for you?

She complimented me on how well I have handled the situation. She told me how hard this was on her, I validated.

take note, like I said before, she does notice things even though she has a great poker face.

I mentioned how much I have learned, how much work a M takes, and how much differently I would treat a new M with her

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A little R talk here and pursuing. Don't say this again, she knows how you feel.

She said at one point “there are too many ghosts in the closet.”

Just an excuse to justify her decision. There will be a lot more of this to come.
Be ready for it.

I asked if she could forgive me for my part. She said she has forgiven me. When talking about her feelings and her decision to leave, she said “nothing has changed.”

OK there, she said she forgave you. It took my W one year to get there to say that to me.

Then I probably made a huge error. I went in and kissed her on the cheek and the forehead. She saw me come in and she made sure to turn her head, making sure it was not a kiss on the lips.

Not probably, this WAS a huge mistake. Your chasing the cat that doesn't want to be held.

In the end, she does still feel like her decision is final.

See how thoughts lead to feeling that lead to action.

Ok, so from this convo it is clear she want action taken regarding the house.
What do you want?
How much effort on your part needs to be put into selling the house?
I would let her do the work in regards to the house.

Overall, I guess I left very confused, sad and deflated.

Why, we already talk about the possible outcomes.
99 times out of 100 this will be the result early on.
Chin up, the journey has just begun.

Great job keeping your composure. She will/has taken noticed your strength to handle difficult situations.
Women want to feel safe. Showing her strength was a good sign.

Yes, pull back, let her handle the effects of her own decisions.