I think you are 100% on the right track. I read through your whole ordeal and much of it reminded me of my own situation (though I never moved out)
My wife went from not even caring about how I felt (she told them this several times) to kissing me and telling me how much she loves me as I dropped her off for work this morning.
You use the word "Limbo." You aren't in limbo. You are moving forward, now I can't say for sure what's going to happen, but I wanted you to continue along that path.
Mostly likely you W, needs time and space. if she dropped the bomb, there is a lot for here to to get to place where she wants to work on the M. It never happens as quickly as we want. That is awesome that she is ready to start forgiving you. I bet at one point your W thought that was never possible.
She can now see a point where she could to that. That is a first step. I know because my W said the same thing to me. Never underestimate the amount of work your W is doing as well. To get over that anger and work to forgive takes a lot of effort on her part.
I will say that the people I most talked to outside were people who supported the idea of what I was doing.
Patience is bitter, but its fruit is sweet. --Jean Jacques Rousseau.
