Cautiously Optimistic

[JustStunned]

Scylla, your last post struck a chord with me. For the last couple of days I been caveing about my sitch. Last night was the first night since January that I have not at least lurked on this board. I just needed distance from everything to think.

I wish I could offer something more than “you are not going through this or having these thoughts alone”.

H has made it pretty clear he doesn't want to deal with his "stuff", although he seems okay with the fact that I'm dealing with mine

I don’t know about your spouse, but mine still believes her decision is righteous and we should all recognize it as righteous.

My kids are adults, and they are having problems dealing with this. I never had to deal directly with this drama when my nieces went through it. I can only imagine how strong you’ll need to be for your kids.

I am glad you are waiting to think and not reacting. Though it may not seem like it during the anxious hours this is an indication of how strong and admirable your character is.

Sooner or later our spouses will confront their issues and how their reality fits in. We’ve been working on this. They really haven’t started.