Originally Posted By: Scylla_Charibdis
He doesn't love them enough ... to get past the fear of pain to address his "stuff" to become the person he really wants to be.

You don't know that. What you do know is that he's not doing it your way, on your timeline.

Originally Posted By: Scylla_Charibdis
H has made a concious choice and decision not to love me.

Do you really believe that?

Originally Posted By: Scylla_Charibdis
how we intend to break it to our kids that he wants a divorce and all the reasons why.

Are you saying that you intend to give the kids a laundry list of reasons why?

Originally Posted By: Scylla_Charibdis
I know I'm reactive right now. I will give myself a week to really think about things further.

Good.

PEI

Holding onto anger to punish someone else, is like lighting yourself on fire to get smoke in their eyes ~ 25yearsmlc