Do these things for you man. Do them because you enjoy them. Do them because you want to become a better Fixer.
She'll never notice as long as you are trying to get her to. You don't want to live like that anyway. That's the old Fixer.
Be your own person. You don't want to base who you are on how she will or won't see you.
It's going to happen when you just say screw it, I'm doing X,Y and Z because I love it! I like who I am and I really enjoy life again.
That's when it will happen. Not to sound insensitive or give you the wrong idea but when it happens and she finally does take notice, in a way...it won't matter to you that much any more.
