Thanks gr8, I will definitely remember this advice. Since I like to pat myself on the back, I don't act so neurotic in real life. I like to let it all out here, every ridiculous thought I have.
So far I have been able to manager our face-to-face time well, hopefully tomorrow won't be an exception.
The thing is though, I would actually love an opportunity for her to really open up to me and give me a chance to validate, agree, etc. The thing is though, she has kept a perfect poker face through all of this so far. And really, she has always been one to keep her emotions to herself. It actually led to our problems. She didn't stand up to me, didn't tell me how much I hurt her. She just bottled it up until it burst. It seems like she is doing the same thing now. Keeping all of her emotions bottled up, at least towards me.
I really like your line about handling things when they don't go our way. Absolutely the truth.
Question: At some point do I probe for her to open up to me? Ask questions that may lead to her talking more?
I think I already know the answer but worth asking. I understand the DB principles for the most part, but at some point things need to be addressed. I just wonder when that might be. I think I am just going through a period where my patience is waning.
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