She has asked my wife why she doesn't try to work it out. MY W told her that she is afraid if she does, then she would end up staying for a few more years. Based on that, she thinks I will revert to what I was (and I don't blame her). Actions will prove otherwise. She did say that my W told her she just doesnt have it in her anymore to try. It kind of contradicts some of the other things she has said (100%/50% theory)
Brian - You are in the worst days of your ordeal, and I feel for you my friend. I know just how difficult and heart wrenching it is. I was where you are a mere 3 months ago.
The past 3 months, however, have proven to me that the hope that I held back in December was not 'false' hope. Those 3 months taught me that DBing can and does work.
There are no guarantees, but IF you are patient, continue with whatever 180s you believe will make you a better person and H, and if you give this the necessary time, you have a chance at saving your M. AND, even if you are not successful in saving your M, you will have saved yourself.
Be patient... give your W the space and time that she obviously needs... and BE THE BETTER MAN...
I wish that I could tell you that all of this is going to be easy... I can't. But the rewards at the end of this terrible path that you are on may be worth every second of the pain that you are enduring right now.
We are with you. You will be okay... and you will be happy again.
BITS Denver
M 43 X 38 T 13 W moves out of home 11/2010 Roller coaster from hell 2/2011-5/2012 I request divorce 5/2012 W moves home 6/2012 Good time 7/2012 - 1/2015 I leave 3/2016 process of divorce
