My H just turned 37 and has had unresolved childhood issues that he can't even realize. He is passive aggressive as well. Bottles up most of his emotions. He is showing symptoms of MLC. I don't know if there is an OW but I don't know if I could handle it if there were. I am all for standing for my marriage and have been doing so despite being treated like crap but how do you handle the jealousy of the possibility of a OW? I don't want to leave either, even though I told him I would (he wants D)I just don't see how I can stay in the house by myself with so many memories. Plus, I could not afford the house on my own. He mentioned that he might consider a separation but I worry that a separation would just put an "out of sight, out of mind" curse on us. It would also allow him more freedoms to get into another relationship. I worry though, that if I don't leave, he will anyway, then I will get "stuck" with the responsibility of the house and upkeep. UGH!
