Ask the thearpist to teach you both how to talk and listen to each other.
Mine had a great style, circular talking or some big brain pschyo babble name for it. : )
Put your money to work and your thrapist to work for you, have him/her teach you both something.
That sounds like a great idea, Jack. I think it is very important for both of us to gain something through this experience.
We were in couples therapy a year ago (just before and during the start of the A). Our goal was to tune some of our communication methods before our baby arrived. I know now that what I thought was a simple tuning of our relationship ended up being a need for major overhaul. As soon as the A started, my W checked out emotionally to our therapy sessions as well as communication with me. She later told me that we stopped fighting and seemed to improve because she had stopped caring and checked out. Ouch. I guess this what an A does to you.
I mention the past therapy sessions only because it seems as though we would be bringing back new practices with this one. I have a fear that she is still checked out and not looking to work on our communication right now, but I can only try. My therapist did mention to chuck out old practices from past therapy out the window. That was good for both of us to hear.
Wish me luck. I will give this a shot tonight.
Me - 33 W - 33 S - 9 months M - 3 years T - 5.5 years Bomb - 12/14/10 ILYBNILWY PA discovered - 1/18/11 PA began - 3/22/10 Separated
