IMO there is no "better" ... what works in any given situation depends on the people involved. As I'm sure you've read, being under the same roof as your MLCer will definitely have challenging times. Frankly, it's all challenging.
That being said, don't go anywhere. Why would you and the children leave your home? If he wants out ... he should leave.
BTW, my stbxH was just mos past his 35th birthday when things started to erupt. Resources I've read indicate 35-50 is well within range.
Peace PEI
Holding onto anger to punish someone else, is like lighting yourself on fire to get smoke in their eyes ~ 25yearsmlc
