I am about 90% sure there is not OW, however, I could be dead wrong. But my H is not the player type.....he looks the part but does not have the self confidence to play the part. Never has!! His former A was with a married "girl" she was 15 years younger than him and that happened prior to me rekindling a relationship with him ( I had not seen him in over 15 years)...it was during that period that he was the OM, as she was married and a devout Mormon. It was and is a mess, as you have read from my thread a child was bore from the affair....he has tremendous guilt over the entire situation (which I think is part of the problem too). However, she is still married and her H knows the entire situation and they continue to live as a family....non of her children have a clue. Her children are presently 12, 10 and the love child is 5.
So possible he was in the MLS during the affair with her some 6 years ago. Who knows...
He just tells me that:
he does not know what he wants he does not want to get divorced he needs some space he wants some alone time he does not want to have to be with someone 24/7 he does not want any OW...in fact he wants to be alone he is moving back to his former home (that we had rented) on April 1 he still wants to see each other (but on his terms....which I am not going to agree to) he still tells me or text me that he loves me he still wears his wedding ring he still refers to me as his W to people he talks about things in our future he still communicates with me almost daily either text or phone
While our conversations are mostly superficial......I do not initiate anything or ask any questions.
So all this is so DAMN confusing.....I am trying to GAL but it is hard and I am also trying to detach. But when he does communicate in some way almost daily it is hard....
