PINCH ME of HIT ME with a 2x4

[ninelives]

Thanks 2 Step, country PeI and Islander and Brian ,hope i didnt miss anyone.

Excellent post 2 step . I have read it twice. I am able to stay calm with her until she raises her voice with anger and then starts firing bullets in which case, SHE tells ME to calm down when I am not raising my voice. Still its something I have to work on.

I dont feel good the way things were left and I wrote a note which Im not sure whether to send with son as he walks the dog.

I know its not dark but just one last thing:

NOte:

Wife:

Yesterday was another round of WTF.

First, I was surprised to see the van in my driveway. This should not happen. If there was an accident with the dog crapping , It is up to US to deal with it.

I dont want to fight wiht you anymore ever again. Those days should be over. I need you to respect my boundries.

I was out of line on a few issues. Yes you should be allowed to have the dog from time to time but I dont want you coming to the house to get her. So I guess that leaves it up to oldest son to take her there.
I will make hido it from time to time but if he cant, then I think we have to respect that. He is almost an adult and entitled to his own feelings; whether we like them or not.

Going to your home town thing. I think your brother and I got caught up in a little emotion. I want to try and make up for some of the things I did wrong. Not going to see his house was wrong . As wrong as wrong can be. But I think you are mistaken by saying that this is no longer my business. If it upsets you too much, I will honour your wishes but in time, If he still has the invite, I want and NEED to do this for me and for him. If it is not important to him, then I will not go where I am not wanted.

As for the first plane ride; I think we were both being immature about that. I would love to be able to do that as I know you wuld so we will have to solve that in the future with a solution not emersed in emotion but sound common sense. Something that got away from both of us yesterday.

I dont want to think or respond with emotion any more. Sometimes when i feel it rising to the surface, I want to disengage and resume when I am calmer. You are the only person that seems to be able to push my buttons but I want that to stop. I want to get to a stage where I will not respond with emotion; especially anger, and be calm.

If you start throwing darts like " my house is disgusting etc.. I think its in OUR best interests to end the conversation as no good can come from that.



Well, do I send that with son or not? Just addresses some of the things we talked about yesterday.

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