PINCH ME of HIT ME with a 2x4

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But see 9, you don't tell her you're going dark. Just do it. Now I understand that she will force interaction between you two. But what you control is how those interactions go. Bite your tounge. Say as little as possible. But don't be rude. Just say and do what is necessary, nothing more.

You need to do this for you. You need to get to a calmer spot. How she reacts to it should not be your concern right now.

I agree with islander, for whatever she is picking fights with you. Don't fall for it! Let it go! Again, you need to do this for YOU! It will help you get to a better place.