I like how you have given yourself an idea of the directions you are heading in.
One thing I might suggest is making your goals a little more specific and measurable. For example, with your guitar, how will you know when you are "happy with your play". What will tell you that?
Similarly, if your ultimate goal is to have "a long happy life together", well the only way you can actually measure a goal like that is at the very end of your life. That's not very practical. Being happy together works as a path or purpose, but IMHO it's not precise or targeted enough to be effective as a goal.
I'm feeling pretty bummed out right now because Wife just told me she didn't like her DB counseling session, and prior to hearing that, my next goal was to get us into counseling together, so I'm gonna follow your lead and set some clear new targets of my own over in my thread.
At the very least, giving ourselves specific things to work towards will help keep us focused, improving, moving forward and enjoying no matter what the outcome.
peace.
I am being the possibility of:
1) Integrity 2) Loving myself completely. 3) Things flowing naturally between us, without any fear or attachment to the outcome.
