Hi again,
The DB coach told me yesterday....that when spouse talks to you, try to absorb the truth in any statement and let anything that doesn't resonate just fade away. Let it go. WOW what a concept. To just let a lie float by without saying anything.

It makes sense I think?! At least it will help diffuse a situation and help us to stay calm.

Testing it out for awhile and will report back.

Me - 49
H - 56
S - 23
D - 20
Married 25 years
H moved out 10/11/13
H moved back in 10/13/13
H moved out again 8/1/14