TrueGritter...after rereading your convo for the third time this jumped out at me:
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I am sorry to upset you we can to talk at another time.
All I know is we make choices and we make mistakes and they are only mistakes if we don't learn from them and choose better. You have to forgive yourself for your mistakes. You have to forgive yourself first or you won't ever be able to believe someone else forgiving you.
I am not sure I am ready to accept someone back in my life that can't imagine themselves there and worthy of being there.
You are so dead on the money here. She's got a lot of steps to complete before she can forgive herself.
Do you think she might be asking for help with her issues? Given your history together IMO that she's not really dealt with her early ( multiple) sources of trauma.
My intital reaction of her being self pitying still stands, but that's a sign of someone that's stuck in a cycle that impedes forgiveness of others and self, iirc. One I will outline to you when I have the time and if you want that information.
BITS Me-51, WAS-52 Kids 2 M-26yrs, H.left 2009, 2 more Bomb drops, Reconnection spring 2013 Change is inevitable, personal growth is a choice. Love is a action and choice you make, every day.
