I don't know what's going on. The only account I have access to anymore is his AA.com account. When I didn't hear anything from him and he didn't come home, I checked it this morning. To my shock and surprise, it said that he had left for California on Saturday night and would not be back until next Monday. But a lot of things didn't make sense: the flight number and time was exactly the same as it was for his last flight(from 2 weeks ago), but the seat number and record number were different. It also said that all of his ticketing information had been completed last night (therefore, how could he have gotten on a plane on Saturday??). So none of this made sense.
So I texted him and said, "please turn on Google latitude. I'm just worried seeing as I didn't hear from you last night". He texted back "Oops" and turned on his latitude. It said he was still in our state, en route to his work. At the same time, I know you can mess with the GPS coordinates of your phone to say anything you want it to, so I also asked to see his bank acct (we had agreed earlier that he would let me see it whenever I asked, and I haven't asked in almost 2 weeks). So he sent me a screen shot, but that also didn't prove anything. It showed that while yes, he had been in our state doing things on Saturday, it also showed that he took out almost 400 dollars in (see: untraceable) cash, and has had no activity since Saturday.
So I don't know what to believe. I asked what his plans were and he said to stay with his parents "through the weekend" and did not know if he would be attending the MC session next Monday. Definitely would not be attending the one tomorrow, but he wants me to go.
The other odd thing, is that I told him if he wanted his parents to come to our couple's baby shower, I needed to set up to speak with them prior to that date (because how awkward is that to see people who f-ing hate you and blame you for the fallout of their family and the first time you see each other in 4 years is when you're 8 months pregnant at your baby shower....). He said that was fine and he would let them know.
So he's cool with some things, he's not with others, and he's just generally very non-commital. And of course, he will not make a commitment as to what day/time he plans on returning to the house.
At least when he said he would be back last night there was a finish line to anticipate. Now it's just completely open ended.
I don't know how I'm going to continue to keep it together. I don't plan to make any other contact with him until Monday morning (at which point I will send him just a reminder saying "MC is today at 5:30 if you plan on coming"). I have plans to hang out with his friends tonight. I can't decide if I will tell them about all this or not.
I told H's oldest friend (he's one of the few that knows about this whole situation) about the information I found on AA.com. They have been friends for almost 25 years. He said he was so angry to hear that if it was true that he would most definitely end their friendship over it. This man is a very level headed, patient, tolerant man. For him to say something like this just proves the gravity of the situation.
