I do not personally know either you or your wife. I only know you through these Boards. I hope you do not think ill of me, but my first instinctive response is she's setting you up for cake-eating. It sounds like female manipulation to assure herself you are still there, hanging on.
I may be completely wrong. As I said, I don't know her and you do, plus a conversation without benefit of intonation is flat and one sided.
Forgive me for being blunt. I am too cynical by far, but that's just my first instictive response.
