How do you approach couples therapy while DBing?

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I think it depends on a lot of things. First and foremost, it shouldn't be an opportunity to promote yourself. You do that with your actions, as we know.

What is the goal of MC? I look at it like, I have an IC for me and MC is for the marriage. I think what you talk about should be related to that mostly. A good MC should help guide your sessions. (I believe there are a lot of bad MCs though)

I totally agree. Self promotion is not my goal here at all, although I do find myself initiating topics more often than my W. I guess that speaks more of where each of us are at the moment.

My W had the A and has moved out while she determines what is best for her. She agreed to go to therapy to help rebuild the two of us as it relates to parenting our S, or in time, reconcile the M. That decision has not been made yet, but it is obvious that my W is not ready to reconcile and save the marriage at this time. We also discuss how our R relates to W's sexual orientation questions. In the end, I think I simply need to allow my therapist to steer the ship while my W and use the selected topics as our basis for communication.

I mostly think anything is fair game as it relates to the marriage.

Good to know. I try to be careful not backslide in therapy if that makes sense. I hear so much concerning avoiding R talk in certain situations, but I assume that couples therapy is the one place where it should be okay with no restrictions? Does that make sense?