just when I was up, crashing down again

[Queen_of_Swords]

Yes I think your analysis is probably the right one. He wants all the priviledges of family but he wants to be free.
My H too has hugely underestimated what this will cost him financially...let alone emotionally. They say love is grand, well divorce is 40 grand plus! Let alone child and spousal support.

Really it sounds like he too is in mid-life crisis.
In my opinion, going dim on him ( not dark) is probably the best thing to do. It's hard to go dark with kids in the picture ( blessing or curse - you decide) , and Lord knows I've had my struggles with doing it. In the end though it's about not getting on the rollercoaster and having those extreme climbs and falls and having no expectations


I too smiled grimly when I read in his " I divorce you" declaration that he hoped we could be friends. I'm thinking: 1) friends don't treat me the way you have 2) You just betrayed me in the worst manner possible and 3) are you f@cking joking?

Hugs