From being on this site for over 18 months and reading many threads the only thing that I seen work is when the LBS drops the rope and totally moves on with their lives. I am living proof.
Gr82B - I have to respectfully disagree. I don't believe that completely dropping the rope and totally moving on is the only thing that works. I am proof of that.
If I had done that, I would not be reconciling my M right now. I would have been doing exactly what my W expected me to do.
I do agree that for many situations, that is the best course of action. But, more so, I believe that DBing requires doing WHAT WORKS for the specific sitch.
Good advice for some may be the nail in the coffin for others.
DR and DB only gives us a framework in which to work. We have to figure out from what we know about our WAS and the history of our M, what works within that framework.
With that being said... Country... I would lean towards following the advice of your DB coach over all else...
Again GR82B... I say this will all due respect to your experience and to what you have learned here.
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M 43 X 38 T 13 W moves out of home 11/2010 Roller coaster from hell 2/2011-5/2012 I request divorce 5/2012 W moves home 6/2012 Good time 7/2012 - 1/2015 I leave 3/2016 process of divorce
