Turned a corner

[JustStunned]

Please remember this is all just my opinion and I am new

I think my H is starting to think I am having an affair. 2 days in a row he has made a comment about how early I am leaving for work and how he doesn't hear from me each day. He says it in a joking tone.

IMO he’s probing to determine what you’re doing and to reassure himself, using a joking tone to belay suspicion of his concern.

I used a joking tone a lot when I was probing for a reaction from w. if I received an angry retort I could always defend myself with “It was just a joke”. Not very mature. Doesn’t project confidence, something to 180

Should I back off on the leaving for work early?

From you posts it seems as though H pushes buttons to control your behavior. So it depends on what drives the early departure and what it’s producing in your sitch.

If it is a component of his probing then maybe not right away. If he perceives you are leaving later because of his question then he has controlled your departure. If he perceive you are leaving early to avoid him then he has control of a sort again.

IMO opinion more feedback and evaluation is needed before an adjustment.