Thanks to everyone for checking in. A new day brings new perspective. I can’t worry about how my W interpreted my message. It was an honest feeling I had at the time. She can take it any way she chooses; I have no control over that now. I am projecting, but my guess is she pulls back some from it, but we’ll see.
Gr8, how do you reconcile your advice with what I have received from my DB coach? I know last night wasn’t a good example, but generally I have been replying to some messages, ignoring others. Not initiating the first contact, and keeping everything short and light. I read your advice as ignoring all of them? Going fully dark? I am sure you’re sick of hearing it, but I am still hesitant with that technique in my situation. She is not really pulling further away at this point; she is just kind of standing there. If I drop the rope I don’t see her falling. I just see her still standing there, but now with no one on the other side of the pond. Where does she go?
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Happiness is not something ready made. It comes from your own actions.
