I would say that you are still in the DB phase... certainly not piecing if your W is not committed to piecing the M back together. Unfortunately, you are going to have to continue being extremely patient. I would continue to advise you to GAL.

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Denver

M 43
X 38
T 13
W moves out of home 11/2010
Roller coaster from hell 2/2011-5/2012
I request divorce 5/2012
W moves home 6/2012
Good time 7/2012 - 1/2015
I leave 3/2016
process of divorce