I agree with 9 Islander. You've got to follow whatever your chosen strategy is strictly and give it ample to time to asses the results. This was pursuit and was certainly not going dark. I think that you keep shooting yourself in the foot man. Sorry.

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M 43
X 38
T 13
W moves out of home 11/2010
Roller coaster from hell 2/2011-5/2012
I request divorce 5/2012
W moves home 6/2012
Good time 7/2012 - 1/2015
I leave 3/2016
process of divorce