Not to me. Sure all those are part of a technique to help save your marriage but in the end DB to me is a way of life. It is a long hard look in the mirror so that you can 1st Acknowledge how you have contributed (not ruined because two played this game) to the decline or your M and 2nd make real changes in your life so that YOU can be a better person going forward, not as much for your M but for yourself.
In the end the one thing that stands out in my mind is "do what works” but the only way to know what works is to try it. Sometimes you get the result you want sometimes you don’t. Sometimes we get the result we are expecting but get upset when we get it.
I don’t think you require a 2x4 for asking the question country or rather making the statement.
I know you jump over sometimes 2x4 in hand ready to swing it at me and that is ok because I have a big head so it’s hard to miss. Your W lives in the same town she see’s you sometimes and text you often. She is thinking all the time. This was obvious from a few weeks ago. Mine is 1500 miles away in a new town new apt new job much easier to heal and move on. There is a difference between the two of us in that regard but in the way we handle things we are somewhat similar. In reality I don’t believe the comment was out of line. She did not respond because she is thinking.
