Alright...I went to see the tax people yesterday to get our taxes done. I needed some banking information so I text my W. She responded with the information and said I hope we don't have to pay because I'm strapped. This was after giving her $20K. I finished up at the tax place and text her that she need to go sign before they can send it, that the return will be put in her account, and that I paid the fee ($220) so the bank wouldn't charge $50 to pay it out of the return.
After leaving I wondered if her telling me she was strapped was a tiny cry for help. So I text her and said "since you are strapped, do you need anything?". She responded that she knew it would be tough money wise. And explained where all the money went. I told her that I would always be there for her financially if she needs it. She text back that she could not use me like that, it's not right but she does appreciate it. I left it at that.
A tiny part of me is a little bit glad she is strapped. This is her choice. The rest of me wants to make sure she is taken care of. I know that is no longer my duty, but it's still in my heart. I am ok with our text conversation and know I was positive throughout. I don't feel I pursued by offering since I did it only once.
I know today is going to be a great day because that is what I want to make of it! Going bowling tonight..we are in first place with 3 weeks to go.
