When my wife said she wanted a separation, and was having an EA, I blew up. I flew off the handle, threatened everything, and was generally crazy.
She later admitted she only decided we were DONE and wanted out after I reacted so poorly as opposed to just wanting to have a separation, etc.
Now I feel regretful and sorry I said those things and made things worse. I KNOW it triggered her into being more determined, and really ready to move on.
This was about 2-3 weeks ago.
I am starting DB last resort. What is the DB theory on this: I was thinking to send her an email, one sentence saying "I am sorry for all of the hurtful things I said a few weeks ago when you told me how you were feeling".
I was not going to say regrets, not that we need to talk about it, just to send an email and leave it so that hopefully she is thinking that maybe I could turn the corner and not blow up like that again. She says I was justified and she is totally in the wrong here, but it reinforced her being done.
