H was gone for 10 days, he returned on Friday evening and then worked out of state Saturday and Sunday. I saw H this am driving through town with an oversize load, he did not see me, I sent him the following text:
"Hi, I hope ur doing well...have a great trip today"
H immediately replied: "Ok"
I have to make a decision about Thursday, my gut is telling me H is back wanting a divorce and that is why we have had no contact together since March 4th. BTW, H has made no motion to contact me since his return from vacation, a huge red flag to me.
This evening after I got supper in the oven I called H and asked him to please call me this evening as we had a few things we need to talk about. His cell rang a long time and then went to voice mail. I know him, he didn't answer the phone on purpose. He is avoiding me because of guilt and shame and he doesn't want to face me. He avoids when he is also wanting something that will contradict what he knows I want. He knows I do not want a divorce. He knows he has led me to believe through his actions and words that he has interest in working on us.
I plan on asking H where his intentions lie and whether or not he will be in court on Thursday.
Should H tell me point blank that he wants to follow through with the divorce, I am planning on asking him to put a "deal" in writing to me that I cannot refuse. If the "deal" is sweet enough I will sign it and we will be done.
I further plan to tell H that we should at least work really hard at maintaining a friendship if for no other reason than our son.
I will keep you all posted.
Sanderika
ME48/H48MLC T 33y M 28y S16 OW 8/7/05 Bomb 8/16/05 Sep 9/05 H f'd D 10/3/08 D pp'd 1/20/09,7/24/09,12/4/09 D dismissed 2/5/10 H served me D papers again 9/4/10 D dismissed 9/26/11
