First, I don't think Sandi is going anywhere. I think most would say she is vital to the board.
Second, it was dumb misunderstanding. Sandi assumed I was talking about her being "twisted." I clarified my point in that I was talking about the WAW.
But what got Sandi riled up was when I said I take her advice cautiously. I take ANYONE's advice on here with a grain of salt. Why? Each of us only allows the board to see what we want to see. We censor ourselves and present things from our side, it's natural. Consequently any advice we receive is from a person who does the same. We never know what is going on in that person real life when the give advice on the board.
But the reality is our situations are complex, but in the end I know my situation and my wife better than any one this board. It's that unique understanding got me to where I am today (in case you are interest, it's laid out in the piecing section).
to paraphrase, it's not Sandi...it's me.
Lastly, Sandi and I gave basically the same advice for SL. So the end goal should be trying to help people.
Patience is bitter, but its fruit is sweet. --Jean Jacques Rousseau.
