dueinMay, Thanks for the response. I have not been able to talk to many people that know anything about BPD. I have read the book "Stop Walking on Eggshells" and it described our whole marriage down to the finest details. My W is seeing a therapist about her illness' but as far as I know she isnt on any medication for it. I am also seeing the same therapist about my own issues and he is the one that suggested I read the book and also made the comment that people with BPD can and do change their minds quite often. Maybe there is hope for us but right now I am not too optimistic about it. I still love her with all my heart and was ready to walk through fire with her to help her heal BUT, so was her boyfriend and in the end she picked him and not me.
Last night we talked on the phone for over an hour (she called me) and during that conversation she made the comment about "IF" we ever get divorced. I dont know if that was just a normal slip with no meaning behind it or not but she wants to fill out the D paperwork as soon as the current issue is resolved. She has told me more than once not to hold onto false hope.
