I'm a recovering verbal abuser. Most verbal abusers don't see their spouse as a person but an extension of themselves they can control. Patricia Evans is a good source to start reading about verbal abuse. Also her website is verbalabuse.com. I didn't wake up to my abusiveness to her until she told me she was done and cut off all physical contact. I found Mevac men ending verbal abuse and control. It has helped me be a better father and hopefully a better partner to someone in the future.
Bernita your husband is demonstrating a classic verbal abusive trait called withholding. he's not communicating with you to control. Read Patricia Evans and help yourself. You will relize how much of this is not your fault. You and your children deserve peace.
on a side note I wouldn't mention anything to him yet about Mevac or verbal abuse until you have educated yourself a little more. Most VAC (verbally abusive and controlling) people don't get it until it hits them square in the eyes. Keep safe and God Bless.
Joe
H:37 W:34 D11,S8,S6 Together 19 years M:10 Bomb:4/09
