VS, IMO what you described above is more like going dark/dim than doing something for yourself. You’ve gotten some baby steps from it. If it sounds, smells and tastes like progress then it probably is. Do what works. IMO this will only take you so far and will be difficult to maintain unless you can GAL a little
From what I’ve read you used to be very busy doing things and are now hesitant to do something for the joy of doing. You’re hesitating out of fear your S will think you’re to busy for him. IMO he is taking advantage of that fear.
It was thinking like this that eventually lead me into my sitch. One of my issues was never leaving my S enough room to breathe. Every healthy R needs a bit of detachment. Wish I’d have realized that years ago.
So what to add? IDK. What do you like to do that would be easy and not take up all of your free time? Trying to think of balance between GAL for you and having time to interact with your H. It is a delicate balance.
BITS Me 55, ACK, when did that happen? Doesn't feel like 55 D 30 S 27
You create your own universe as you go along - Winston Churchill
