how do they justify ILYBINILWY later on?

[AliSuddenly]

I agree.. my H actually he insisted that he DIDNT love me, I got the full IDLYA. He said he was 100% sure, adamant in fact and that we may be friends in the future, but not until things settled down...

...we later reconciled and he asked me to marry him.

I asked him this and he said.. he did feel that at the time, but looking back it was ridiculous, as of course he did still love me, but he felt "mental, crazy, mad" at the time. He says he cannot now put his mind into the mind he had then. So for him, it really was a kind of depression/MLC fog and how he felt then just isnt relevant to him now. In fact, he cant bare to talk about it, or remember how he behaved and seems to have blocked much of it out (whereas yes I can recall it all in technicolour detail).

Ali x