Hi again. Sandi2 and Harrier, I really value the advice you've given me. I think you both understand my situation from different points of view, mine (Harrier, our situations are pretty similar) and perhaps my Ws (Sandi2, your insight has been correct so far). One of the greatest things about this board is that we challenge each other, instead of automatically agreeing like many of our close friends would because they see us suffering. I need the advice, especially they painful kind. Don't go away - I've seen both of you offer great support and inspiration here.
By the way your advice is, in the end, very similar. And I have to say you're probably right on the money. I'm planning to take your advice to (1) postpone the confrontation for a litle while (ala Sandi2), (2) build up my position in the relationships (good point, Country Song), three (3) have the confrontation in a direct way and not be afraid of it (thanks, Harrier).
You all know I've been reading some Taoist stuff lately. I don't know what these stories really mean, but they seem to calm me down....perhaps this will make up for my awful humor last night.
A sage and his student were in a tavern when a heated argument broke out between two men. Later, one of the men approached the sage, described his argument, and asked what the sage thought. The sage thought for a long time and replied "You are absolutely right".
Afterward, the other man came to see the sage, explained his case, and the sage thought before replying "You are absolutely right."
The student was confused and that evening questioned his master, saying "Master you heard both men's arguments - and told then they were both right. That's not possible!"
To which the sage responded "Yes, you are absolutely right."
