How do you find out if spouse is cheating?

[abbey1989]

Hi Scared,

From my experience, I think I "knew" in my heart almost immediately. These are the ways that my "feelings" were confirmed:

1) Texting (unusual number of text/picture messages to OP) and cell phone calls.

2) Getting caught in lies

3) Spouse getting mad/upset when you ask whereabouts or question any odd behavior.

3) Change of routine (in my case H started being gone EVERY Saturday morning)...for "work" or a "bike ride"....

4) Change in grooming habits.

5) Stopped wearing wedding ring and made up an excuse that it was getting tight.

6) If your spouse is dumb enough to call you by accident from a secret cell phone like my H did....SURE SIGN!


Honestly, you know your W and if you feel that something is going on, then it probably is.

I am so sad that you are in the same place as me. My situation has been going on for 2+ years and my H denies.

Then again, per DB rules, we are not supposed to spy or check up on our spouses. I think it is innate. I am working on trying to stop because every time I find something it only makes ME feel bad.

I truly hope you have a better day today! Let the sun shine on your face and make you smile!