Last night she asked me why I thought she was having an affair, I told I her I just feel it. She went on to say she has never lied to me and why would she start now.
I know why she wont start now, I am not an idiot but I tend to believe her for what she said.
So how do I turn my naive butt into a man that knows how to find evidence>
Look Scared, i dont want to beat this to death. Puppy and Gucci and Sandi and many of the vets almost had to beat me over the head last year when they kept telling me to be aware of an A.
I had head firmly up butt and questioned her a few times, aske around. Her friends even asked her and she denied everything.
Even swore on just about anything and then got really angry when I asked again at different times.
I would have bet my LIFE on it that there was no affair. Seriously.
When I found the evidence due to her being careless, i felt like I was hit by a sledge hammer. honestly.
I felt soooooo stupid, embarassed etc.
I dont know where to start but I know that questioning them is not the answer.
Sandi is right I think when she says that you do want to know the truth.
Hope and Pray we are wrong but be aware. Its the only way you can make the right choices.
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BITS M-46 W-42 M-16y T-19 y s10 s15 BombDec.19/09 Sep-F16/10 Sep Papers signed by W- June 30/10 Recon July 5/10 PA foundOut- Oct 30/10 Mental HospNov/10 moved out Nov/10 Leg Sep Mar 15/11
My wife has not worn her "actual" wedding ring since last year and continues to use the excuse that the band broke. As a result she started wearing a ring that her mother had given her. Well Since I got home last Tuesday after being gone for 2 weeks, she has not worn a ring since Thursday. I mentioned it last night and she told me it was getting tight.
WOW, great rational especially since she has been going to the gym more.
"She locks her laptop with password new email accounts that she thinks I do not know about twitter account that she will nto let me be her friend on facebook that she deletes posts occasinaly member of countless "fanfiction story" forums comments all the time on a friend she used to hang out with before me foudn out she is moving to texas and that friend will be an hour away from where she is moving she gets real defensive when I tell her I think she still likes him"
UMMM isn't this your proof?
At the very least, she may be in an emotional affair. I heard pretty much the EXACT words your W told you. I swore she was telling the truth, etc. I found out otherwise.
It really is up to you if you wnat to pursue this line of thinking, but more than likely, you're not going to get a shot at your M until her fantasy bubble bursts.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
All, I’m tired and this might not come out the way I intend it to. I apologize if this offends.
I have been following this discussion, and one similar came up in my own thread. I did some digging and did not find W was involved with OP. Later after I stopped looking I found out she had begun to pursue an R with OP. Though I have not confirmed this I understand nothing has begun and the OP blocked contact from W through FB. (remarkable an OP with morales) So like Scared I know little.
My questions: What does this really change? If we accept our S are involved and this is not cause for us to be done then what action oriented things are suggested? Does this change the DB principals?
Sadly there are quite a few threads here where S are confirmed to be in an A. I don’t perceive significant differences to what we are all doing beyond the boundary attributed to Truegritter quoted below.
So what am I missing?
Originally Posted By: Truegritter
W, I've told you before that I still love you and still think that we can have a great life together as both a couple and a family. I've not changed my mind on that. But I understand you are not happy, that you do not feel happy or complete inside.
You need to do what will make you happy. By my side, we live as partners, we share everything and we would do anything to help one another. But that's only if we continue as a team.
I won't stand in your way. But I also will not help you leave this marriage or this family. And I will never accept another person being a part of our life together.
I hope you find the happiness you are looking for. Go do what you need to do. You know where I will be.
BITS Me 55, ACK, when did that happen? Doesn't feel like 55 D 30 S 27
You create your own universe as you go along - Winston Churchill
I have decided to just let her go. She is just so unhappy with me and that is not ok for me to make her unhappy just so I can feel better about myself.
I see that my feelings are not important when I am pressuring another to try and keep herself and me happy at the same time, not to mention tossing in the 2 children.
