Let Us Be Outstanding Together. Part 3

[♪CS♪]

I doubt this will make you feel any better, but with the way it was setup, you asking her to go, her not asking on her own, I doubt the session would have done much anyways.

Words are not going to penetrate her right now. It is all action. They notice it more than you thing. DO IT. Don't SAY IT.

[Busting Mode]

Thanks Country,

Another sleepless night, especially since she emailed me back a little while later thanking me for the session and saying she wants to attend after all:

"Thanks things do feel weird now not sure what's going on with me but I do hope the session helps me sort things out!! Hope all is well with you! I worry about you! Glad your not mad at me I just feel this is what needs to be at this time and hoping to not regret it!!
Love you always forever friends beckie"



So we're back to limbo land and rollercoasters but every day I'm getting stronger and taking better care of me. I'm learning to detach and rise above the drama. I'm learning to be direct, open and honest with other people. I am learning to be myself.

I am aligned with my true nature and everything is everything.

[zengypsy]

Busting:

Just caught up. I'm not very active on the weekends.

I have to tell you that I came across a reaffirmation of sorts in a book that I am re-reading again. This may help you in understanding where Beckie's thoughts may be generating from. It indicated that sometimes people need to D and live seperate lives for a while in order for them to heal and possibly see what they have lost. A seperation for some is not enough distance. My C told me this is because the WAS still feels to immeshed (spelling?).

It sounds like she is starting to realize that she does have some accountability in this whole mess just like you do. She is at least willing to listen to what the DB Coach says which is a good thing. I'm sure she is scared to possibly face her own demons. Us LBS's know how hard that is but once you get over the hurdle and you realize the heaviness dissipates it's the most amazing start of the journey at least IMHO.

And remember...you have already started the journey and it doesn't matter how or why you did. The most important thing is you did it for YOU! Keep that going so that you can continue to represent and present yourself better every day.

Please let us know how things went!

[Busting Mode]

Thanks Zen

I agree with everything in your post and am preparing for the possibility of her being one of those people who needs to fully extract herself to get some fresh perspective.

[Busting Mode]

So the good news is she showed up for her appointment yesterday and reported back her progress. Here is what she wrote in an email to me this morning:

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Hey

Not sure how I feel about the session she really kinda annoyed me but we really didn't have enough time to finish the talk!
What did you get out of your sessions?

I think I was already cranky bc I was tired and feeling overwhelmed with work Kids and home lately work has been super freaking busy so it probably wasn't the best time to talk for the first time!!

Thx for the package you sent the kids. <Son 8> was really excited and enjoyed it immensely did you already send the papers too??

Well guess I'll talk to you later I'm off work tomorrow then back for one more on Wed. We leave Thursday for Florida I'm ready for a break !!! Luv ya

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And more good news is I spent hours crafting a really heartfelt response to her this morning...and didn't send it!

I think that is awesome progress for me taking the time to think before I act. I am SO grateful to have this forum!

So what do you think of her email, and how might you recommend that I respond?

With this small victory behind me I am now looking forward to relaxing a little bit and spending more time on other people's threads.

Cheers to all and please tell me how you think or feel I should respond.

Thanks.

[Busting Mode]

Got it.

Here's how I responded:


Yes, I have already sent the papers.
Sleep well.
When you get up, we can chat more about the sessions if you like.


That is approximately 2000 words less than my 1st draft.

[Truegritter]

Good work Busting.

[Starsky309]

Got it.

Here's how I responded:


Yes, I have already sent the papers.
Sleep well.
When you get up, we can chat more about the sessions if you like.


That is approximately 2000 words less than my 1st draft.

Nicely done!!!


Starsky

[zengypsy]

Ditto to True! Very nice work Busting Mode! Your DB skills shined thru in that response.

[Busting Mode]

Thanks True Zen Gypsy Grit,

Cue Rocky soundtrack.