to be honest an affair would not matter to me, I truly mean that
Of course it would matter to you! That is why you've been so stressed since the subject first came up. You were going to leave the board b/c we "had you spiraling".
So, you had a R talk with W. Did you choose to do that rather than search for evidence of an A? Anyway, it appears the conversation went the way she wanted and as a result there is going to be a S. You sound relieved. Relieved that someday she might be friends with you again. As you said, you just want to be loved.
It's not a "duh" moment for any of us, Scared. It always hurts when we see a M fall apart. When a H faces the fact that his W is probably having an A. Although, you still choose not to do that, it's your business and you life.
We've heard the very same conversation, that came from your W, dozens and dozens of times from LBH's here on the board. In fact, I can predict that the two of you will have another argument or something won't go to suit her, the S plan will quickly change to a D. This converstion you had last night was the prep talk.
I hope you will stay here on the board, b/c I believe you will have a change of heart and want our support.
((hugs))
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
