Agreed. The grief is there. The sadness, and it has to be dealt with, but try to change your attitude just a bit every day. Deal with the exciting possibilities of "What if?" Think Mary Tyler Moore throwing her hat in the air.
I like the MTM reference--it makes sense--but I wonder why it seems so much harder to choose that way of looking at it as opposed to choosing to stay in the sadness and anguish. I wonder if it is because we feel like in choosing the MTM moment and walking away from the situation we feel like we are "choosing" to "leave" our spouses, and we don't want to do that because it feels like we are betraying our vows. Just a thought.
M45 Bomb 6/09; EA 6/10; Divorced 1/11 Proud single mom of 7 little feline girls and one little feline boy "Fall down 53 times. Get up 54." -- Zen saying
