grr,
For what it is worth, you should see the stuff my W posts on FB when speaking to my family. It reminds me of what you were talking about in your post in regards to your H and your sister. WAS's have this really weird thing in their minds that they are going to leave us, but still retain our family as some sort of F'ed up consolation prize. She constantly tells my family members that she misses them and loves them, yet she walked away. My C said that is the behavior of someone who is very, very confused. They do it to relieve themselves of the guilt they feel for leaving. They think that by being extra nice to the family, it will somehow relieve them of the mess they created when they walked away from us. Whatever floats your boat, I guess. Please don't do anything to relieve him of this guilt. Remember, "YOU OWE HIM NOTHING, GOT IT?"

Hang in there, girl. He will either come to his senses or you will move on. Either way, the final decision is up to you.

BITS never walk alone!!!

FOBD

Me: 39
W: 36
T: 15 yrs
M: 9 yrs
S: 09/10

So you can get on with your search, baby
And I can get on with mine
And maybe someday we will find,
That it wasn't really wasted time...