"W, I want you to know that I choose us, you and I and I will work hard to again capture what we lost. But we will only be successful if you and I do this together and without the interference of a third party. I am fully aware that OM is not the cause of our problems and is just a symptom of the unhealthy relationship we have allowed our marriage to become. But he does sit as a virus not allowing us to try and regain a healthy and happy marriage. As long as a virus is present we will not be able to get healthy again.
Today you have a choice. You can choose to stop seeing/talking/texting/e-mailing OM and give our marriage a try. Or you can choose to continue your EA in which case you and I can no longer be a couple. The CHOICE is yours."
I gave my W 24 hours to decide... And I was ready to walk away from her.
You need to be ready to do the sane if you set this boundary...
M: 42 - W: 41 - M: 18 - T: 23 - D:16 S:14 EA - July 2010 NC w/EA - Nov 2010 Piecing - Jan 2011 I ask for div - Jan 2012 Div papers filed - Mar 2012 I move out - July 2012 Divorce final - Nov 7, 2012
