Hey friends, don't make me send my W over there to settle this. (that was an attempt at a little self-depreciating humor....)
Surely this is a painful topic for many of us. I find it interesting though that we agree: the best option is to somehow have a conversation, at the right time, without seeming weak. And if that can't be done and I decide to do it anyway I have to be prepared for a possible setback. I just have to decide it's worth it.
CS, to answer your question: sure, my W is the dominant in our M. Not that I'm weak - friends and coworkers describe me as being calm, confident, and in control - she just develped coping strategies early in life that include being in charge, never slowing down, and avoiding feelings. So the minute one let's their guard down bam she's in the lead. Doesn't hurt that she's very cute. One reason her relationship with other men may interest her (and trouble me) is that this is the first man who, by virtue of his position, dominates her and has the power.
(that was an attempt at a little self-depreciating humor....)
