Wow Sparks, you and I have almost the exact same story almost exactly one year apart. I just joined this forum because of your story and to let you know someone else is going through a lot of what you did/are. Certainly each situation is unique but the similarities to mine are uncanny in a lot of regards. It looks like you are doing all the right things and everything you can. I won't hijack your thread with my story but if want to chat independently via email or otherwise, I would be happy to.
Soltero - I am not sure how I missed responding to your post on my last thread before starting this one.
Honestly, I would LOVE to hear you story. This forum has been a godsend for the support given to get me to a positive place mentally. However, and I am sure that you discovered this last year, but it is really difficult finding others that have dealt with the same sex affair and questions involving sexual orientation of their spouse. I guess that is why I even include it in the title. It is not to gain extra attention for a sticky situation. It is to attract those, like yourself, that my have had experience with it.
Where did you find your support system? Books? Websites? I would love for you to share everything that you are comfortable with.
I have been approaching the sexual orientation piece with patience and understanding. I will not allow the affair to continue in our marriage, but I will allow my W time to go through her self discovery. I will continue to improve myself physically and mentally regardless of that. The approach to the divorce busting does not change, and that is why those on this message board have been so great.
If you are still around, I would love to hear from you. This forum has the ability to send personal messages disabled, so I won't be able to contact you directly. Please. Highjack away.
Me - 33 W - 33 S - 9 months M - 3 years T - 5.5 years Bomb - 12/14/10 ILYBNILWY PA discovered - 1/18/11 PA began - 3/22/10 Separated
