Country,

Thaw was an AWESOME post! I love how you are taking note of the things you are doing well, I think your determination and patience is amazing, and it's wonderful to hear that you are taking guitar lessons and taking care of you.

It's also very clear that if your wife is willing to get involved with a man in another marriage, without first resolving issues in her current marriage...well all I can say is both of them are headed for more pain, and your wife's only path to happiness there is to one day her lesson and leave that bloke behind.

As you and I are learning, in order for relationships to be healthy and to flourish, there has gotta be very clear boundaries, standards, and lines that can't be crossed.

How anybody can think they could build a trusting new relationship with someone who is already showing they are untrustworthy and willing to have an affair...that is totally beyond me.

You are clearly the better man, Country. Don't you dare forget that!

God bless you, your wife and your daughter. I pray that you stay strong, that you steadily continue as you have been doing, that you continue to learn and grow and shine, and that one day soon your wife will not only see your light, but exclusively embrace your love, and fully accept the responsibilities and rewards of being a committed wife and mother.


I am being the possibility of:

1) Integrity
2) Loving myself completely.
3) Things flowing naturally between us, without any fear or attachment to the outcome.

"It's do-able." What are the actions now?