Sparks - it's crazy, right? On one hand you have her turning back towards you/questioning if she can trust the changes and on the other hand she is pushing for this child coordinator. Keep plugging away and keep a balance in your feelings/changing for you not her.
I'm so glad you have a good counselor! Ours (who really had no chance against my H, since he was in a crazy place when we went to see her) was very much into rehashing the past, when we were both looking for some action we could take.
Faith is, at one and the same time, absolutely necessary and altogether impossible. --Stanislaw Lem